有效的溝通&享受生活

有效的溝通
Great And Effective Communication Skills Tips (communicationtalk.com)

Effective communication skills are especially important to develop because there is so much confusion and misinterpretation that problems and misunderstandings always arise.

1. Word Choice

What happens from the time you think of something to say and actually say it is dramatic. Your thought process might be very clear; however what you communicate in words is often significantly less clear if you do not have effective communication skills.

This is because when you have a thought you have all of the information that makes the thought clear. However, when you put that thought into words all of the information is not available to the listener and as a result a lot of confusion can occur.

So, in order to keep this from happening think of what you want to say before you say it and make sure you say it clearly, concisely and be very specific so as to eliminate as many problems as possible when the listener hears what you are saying. This is key to ensure effective communication skills.

2. Receiver Perception

Problems do not just occur when you make a statement, they also occur when people listen to what you have to say. This is because they have their own perception of what you are saying, or not saying, and why you might be saying it. Because of this more misunderstandings occur especially if there is a lack of effective communication skills.

People will make assumptions and not really listen to what is being said, which creates even more problems. As a result, during a conversation when both parties do not choose words carefully and do not listen carefully very little of what was intended is actually heard. the absence of effective communication skills can cause a breakdown.

3. Body Language and Non Verbal Cues

Effective communication skills includes body language. Body language and non-verbal cues are also the source of confusion and misinterpretation of what is being said and what is being heard. Make sure your body language emphasizes what you are saying rather than contradicts it.

Facial expressions should also be considered because they often times send signals as well that are different from what is being said. Also, many times people respond to non verbal cues more than to what they actually hear, so if your non verbal cues are not communicating the same thing you are saying then you will have miscommunication problems.
**Words
1. effective 有效的 2. confusion 混亂 3. misinterpretation 誤解 4. arise 上升
5. dramatic 引人注目的;戲劇般的 6. significantly 重要地 7. occur 發生
8. concisely 簡潔地 9. specific 明確的 10. eliminate 刪除 11. perception 觀念;看法 12. assumptions 假設 13. intend 想要 14. absence 缺席 15. breakdown 破裂
16. non-verbal 非口頭上的 17. cue 提示 18. emphasize 強調
19. contradict 矛盾 20. signal 信號

** Grammar
1. Your thought process might be very clear; however what you communicate in words is often significantly less clear if you do not have effective communication skills.
() 名詞子句: 疑問詞(wh~) + 不完整子句
() 用~文字/語言: in + 文字/語言
() 劣等比較: less + 形容詞/副詞(原形): 比較不~
2. However, when you put that thought into words all of the information is not available to the listener and as a result a lot of confusion can occur.
() put ~ into words : 轉化為文字
() as a result 因此(=therefore)
() occur 發生(= happen = take place),主詞一定是事件,而且沒有被動語態。
3. So, in order to keep this from happening think of what you want to say before you say it and make sure you say it clearly, concisely and be very specific so as to eliminate as many problems as possible when the listener hears what you are saying.
() 使~免於~: keep ~ from + V-ing
() 名詞子句what you want to say,在這裡是當of的受詞
() 為了~: so as to + V = in order to + V
() 盡可能~: as ~ as possible
4. Because of this more misunderstandings occur especially if there is a lack of effective communication skills.
() 因為: because of + 名詞 (= owing to = thanks to )
() a lack of ~ : 缺乏~
5. People will make assumptions and not really listen to what is being said, which creates even more problems.
() 現在進行被動: is/am/are + being + pp
() 關係代名詞which 可用帶代替前面的整個句子,但要加上逗號。
6. Make sure your body language emphasizes what you are saying rather than contradicts it.
() rather than 而不是~




享受生活
How to Enjoy Life (wikihow)

Enjoying life is often thought to be a mindset, the result of reflection, action and gratitude. Making small changes to your life soon add up to greater enjoyment in life.

1. Get a pet. Owning a pet provides love, companionship, and hours of entertainment. Pet ownership has health benefits too, such as reducing your blood pressure and the risk of heart disease, increasing your feelings of well-being and connectedness, and teaching you lessons in empathy and nurturing.[1] For extra warm and fuzzy feelings, consider rescuing a pet from your local shelter.

2. Get into music. Listening to music taps into your brain’s imagination and sense of self-identity, boosts your self-esteem, and lessens feelings of isolation.[2] Listening to music feels empowering. Put on your favorite album––or that one you keep meaning to dive into, turn up the volume, and cut out all other distractions so that you can really experience the music.

3. Start the day with a smile. Your facial expression is traditionally thought of as a window into how you feel, but it's also thought that your facial expression can influence your mood.[4] Therefore, be sure to smile freely, to ensure that your mood is upbeat. You might even want to greet yourself in the mirror with a smile first thing in the morning––that happy face may be just enough to keep that mood flowing all day long.

4. Take a break. A decent break doesn’t mean zoning out to the TV or going down the internet rabbit hole. It means setting some time aside and making it special. As a thank-you to yourself, give yourself a vacation or “staycation”; a change of scenery––even if it just means having a picnic in your backyard or building a fort with your kids in the living room. Taking a break that is different from the ordinary and lets you "hang loose" can do wonders for your sense of fun, escape, and fulfillment.

5. Spend time with interesting people. It is well known that people with a wide circle of friends tend to live longer.[5] Of course, birds of a feather flock together, and it’s also been shown that your friends’ behavior can actually have a big impact on yours.[6] Make sure you hang around with positive, interesting people to inspire yourself to live a richer life.

** Words
1.mindset 心態 2. reflection 反省 3. gratitude 感激 4. companionship 友誼

5. entertainment 娛樂 6. benefit 好處 7. well-being 康樂 8. connectedness 連結

9. empathy 移情作用 10. nurture 給~營養 11. fuzzy 有絨毛的 12. rescue 解救

13. shelter 庇護所 14. imagination 想像力 15. self-identity 認同 16. boost 提升

17. self-esteem 自尊 18. isolation 孤立 19. empowering 有動力

20. distractions 分散注意的事物 21. upbeat 上升 22. decent 像樣的;還不錯的

23. zone 分區 24. staycation 居家度假 25. fort 堡壘 26. hang loose 放鬆

27. fulfillment 成就感 28. hang around 閒晃 29. positive 正面的

** Grammar
1. Your facial expression is traditionally thought of as a window into how you feel, but it's also thought that your facial expression can influence your mood.
() 被當作~ : be thought of as + 名詞
() 名詞子句: that + 完整子句 / 疑問詞(wh~)+ 不完整子句
2. Therefore, be sure to smile freely, to ensure that your mood is upbeat.
() 確定~ : be sure to + V / ensure that +子句
() 名詞子句: that + 完整子句
3. It means setting some time aside and making it special.
() 意思是~: mean + V-ing / 打算~: mean to + V
4. It is well known that people with a wide circle of friends tend to live longer.
() 名詞子句: that + 完整子句
() 有著~: with + 名詞,with a wide circle of friends介係詞片語當形容詞用,修飾之前的名詞people
() tend to + V : 傾向~ ;易於~
5. Of course, birds of a feather flock together, and it’s also been shown that your friends’ behavior can actually have a big impact on yours.
() 對~有影響: have an impact on ~
() birds of a feather flock together物以類聚

愛心待用餐

愛心待用餐

'Suspended coffee' tradition inspires noodle vendor in Taiwan (By Jay Chen)

Taipei, April 12 (CNA) For the past two weeks, a noodle shop in New Taipei has served noodles to people in need for free in honor of the Italian tradition of "caffe sospeso," or suspended coffee, and the practice is already resonating in other small businesses nearby.

The soup noodles are in fact not free but paid for in advance by other customers so that they are reserved, or "suspended," for people who cannot afford the shop's fare.

According to the Apple Daily, Yen Lin-ying, who has run the shop in a market in Banqiao District for 32 years, started asking customers in late March whether they would pay for noodles to give away to others after her son told her about the suspended coffee movement he saw on Facebook.

The response was surprisingly positive, she said.

In two weeks, customers have paid for more than 40 suspended bowls of noodles at NT$75 each, and half of the bowls have already been served to needy people who are just learning about the help she's offering.

Yen keeps track of suspended noodles on offer on a whiteboard in her shop.

Among those she has given food to are a single mother and her child who shared a bowl of noodles and an unemployed man who ordered the noodles to go so he could give them to his elderly mother at home.

Since she began the practice, two other food shops and three stalls in the market have also offered to provide their own versions of suspended service.

"I never imagined that a mere bowl of noodles could have such an impact," the 60-year-old was quoted as saying. She hopes the suspended noodles could help promote the power to do good so that more people can benefit, she said.

As in Italy, where the tradition of caffe sospeso has enjoyed a kind of revival because of hard economic times, poverty and hunger have become more common in Taiwan. Earlier this year, the New Taipei government began a program under which school children of low-income families can get food for free in neighborhood convenience stores.

Yen's initiative won widespread praise after the Apple Daily first reported her story Friday.


** Words
1. in honor of 向~致意;紀念 2. suspended coffee (義大利文= caffe sospeso)
3. resonate 共鳴 4. in advance 事先 5. reserve 儲存 6. afford 付得起
7. district 區 8. give away 贈送 9. response 回應 10. positive 正面的
11. unemployed 失業的 12. stall 攤位 13. version 版本 14. impact 影響
15. quote 引用 16. benefit 好處
17. caffe sospeso 只要多付一杯咖啡的前,就可以將溫暖傳遞給另一位負擔不起咖啡的人
18. revival 再流行 19. economic 經濟的 20. poverty 貧困 21. common 一般;普通
22. low-income 低收入 23. initiative 進取心 24. widespread 分佈 25. praise 讚美

** Grammars
1. For the past two weeks, a noodle shop in New Taipei has served noodles to people in need for free in honor of the Italian tradition of "caffe sospeso," or suspended coffee, and the practice is already resonating in other small businesses nearby.
() for the past/last + 一段時間: 過去(某一段時間)以來,用在現在完成式(have/has+pp)的時態裡
2. The soup noodles are in fact not free but paid for in advance by other customers so that they are reserved, or "suspended," for people who cannot afford the shop's fare.
() 為了~;如此一來~ : so that + 子句
() 關係代名詞(who)引導形容此子句,修飾前面的名詞people
3. In two weeks, customers have paid for more than 40 suspended bowls of noodles at NT$75 each, and half of the bowls have already been served to needy people who are just learning about the help she's offering.
() 現在完成被動: have/has been + pp
() 關係代名詞(who)引導形容此子句,修飾前面的名詞people
4. "I never imagined that a mere bowl of noodles could have such an impact," the 60-year-old was quoted as saying.
() 名詞子句: that + 完整子句
() 如此~: such + a/an + adj+ N / such + adj + 不可數名詞/複數名詞


我是歌手

Culture and influence (China Post)

The popularity of "I Am a Singer" was demonstrated by the amount of time major Taiwanese TV stations gave to broadcasting the show. In fact, news stations that broadcast the finale of the show have found themselves in deep water for doing so.

Cable news channels ETTV and CTi Television may each be fined due to their overnight broadcast of the TV show, the National Communications Commission (NCC) said. News channels are not supposed to devote so much of their programming to entertainment shows, and the coverage of the show also prevented the public from getting news reports, the NCC pointed out.

The two channels broadcast the last episode of "I Am a Singer" for as long as four hours, said the NCC, noting that it received complaints from viewers. Mainland China TV programs have to be sent to the Ministry of Culture for review before being broadcast, which did not happen in this case. This has led to concerns about China's growing cultural influence on Taiwan.

Of course, Taiwan has its own popular talent shows, but critics say local TV stations cannot afford to create a show like "I Am a Singer," which features stunning sound and lighting effects and movie-quality videos introducing singers' lives.

Noting that Hunan Satellite TV has invested heavily in making "I Am a Singer" such a huge success, Lung said Taiwan must consider how it can retain its creativity and competitiveness with the country's relatively small economy. Taiwan must work harder to keep its edge in the entertainment industry, she warned. "Will Taiwan retain its abundant talents in pop culture 30 years from now?" she asked. This is now a question that many people are asking


**Words
1. popularity 流行 2. demonstrate 展示 3. broadcasting 播放 4. finale 終場
5. fine 罰款 6. due to 由於 7. devote 致力於~ 8. entertainment 娛樂
9. coverage 覆蓋;新聞報導 10. prevent 預防 11. episode 集 12. ministry 全體閣員
13. concern 關心;關於 14. influence 影響 15. critics 批評 16. feature 以~為特色
17. stunning 令人震驚的 18. effect 效果 19. consider 認為;考慮 20. retain 保留
21. creativity 創造力 22. competitiveness 競爭力 23. relatively 相當 24. edge 邊緣
25. industry 工業 26. abundant 豐富的
** Grammar
1. In fact, news stations that broadcast the finale of the show have found themselves in deep water for doing so.
() in deep water 遭遇困難
() 關係代名詞that引導形容詞子句that broadcast the finale of the show,修飾之前的名詞news stations
2. News channels are not supposed to devote so much of their programming to entertainment shows, and the coverage of the show also prevented the public from getting news reports, the NCC pointed out.
() 應該: be suppose to + V
() 致力於~ ;奉獻~ : devote to + V-ing/N
() 避免~: prevent/keep ~ from ~
3. Of course, Taiwan has its own popular talent shows, but critics say local TV stations cannot afford to create a show like "I Am a Singer," which features stunning sound and lighting effects and movie-quality videos introducing singers' lives.
() 關係代名詞which引導形容詞子句which features stunning sound and lighting effects and movie-quality videos introducing singers' lives
() 現在分詞( V-ing)可當形容詞用,放在名詞後面做後位修飾,有主動或正在做~的意思

韓劇迷 Why Are Korean Television Dramas So Addicting?


韓劇迷

Why Are Korean Television Dramas So Addicting?

(By:Erika Ayala)

Have you ever wondered what makes Korean dramas so popular among Asians? Why do you think they stay glued to their television sets time and again to watch series after series that seem to follow the same old plot lines and twists? I believe that these shows are able to establish a strong emotional connection with its audience.

And this is the main reason they find these shows so addicting. Life isn't easy. There are times when you feel really happy. But for the most part you are struggling to make a living, or nursing the wounds of your recently concluded love life. Then you watch this television show from Korea and you go: 'Hey, this girl or guy is going through exactly the same thing I am.'

So you start watching every episode of the show. Each time an episode ends with a cliffhanger forcing you to watch the start of the next one in order to find out what happens. Sometimes these Korean dramas have stories that become unrealistically depressing. Characters start losing their memories and getting into freak accidents for no apparent reason.

And all the more viewers will watch. They believe that if this character can overcome such difficult problems, then perhaps there is hope for them as well. At times, the series has a happy ending which is all well and good. Other times, the story ends in tragedy. And you seem to agree with the sad ending because that's life.

Being able to watch the lives of others unfold-even if these people are of a different culture or race-is very endearing. After all, we are all humans. We have the same emotions and the same yearning for love. The best Korean actors and actresses have the power to make you cry and laugh together with them. To make you empathize in all their endeavors.

People who watch Korean dramas do so because they want to get on the roller coaster ride of emotions that only a well-made drama can give.


** Words
1.  glue 黏牢     2. series 連續;系列     3. plot 情節     4 .twist 扭轉  
5. establish 建立     6. emotional 感情上的      7. connection 連結  
8.  audience 觀眾     9. addict 上癮     10. struggle 努力    11. wound 傷口
12. conclude 結論     13. episode 連續劇的一齣    14. cliffhanger 扣人心弦的比賽 
15. unrealistically 不現實地     16. depressing 沮喪的     17. freak 反常的  
18. apparent 明顯的    19. perhaps 或許   20. tragedy 悲劇    21. unfold 展開的
22. even 平坦的      23. endear 受喜愛     24. yearning 渴望   25. empathize 移情  
26. endeavor 努力      27. roller coaster 雲霄飛車


** Grammar
1.  Have you ever wondered what makes Korean dramas so popular among Asians?
(A)   現在完成式: 可用來表過去到現在為止的經驗,問句常與ever(曾經)並用
(B)   使役動詞make: 主詞 + make + 受詞 + V/adj
(C)   ~之間: (二者) between  (三者以上) among
2.  I believe that these shows are able to establish a strong emotional connection with its audience.
(A)   名詞子句:  that + 完整子句
(B)   能夠~: be able to + V / be capable of ~
3.  Each time an episode ends with a cliffhanger forcing you to watch the start of the next one in order to find out what happens.
(A)   每次~ : Each/Every time (when) + 主詞 + V ~ , 主詞 + V ~ .
(B)   為了~ : in order to + V / in order that + 子句

便利商店Taiwan, the world's convenience store capital


便利商店
Taiwan, the world's convenience store capital (China Times)

With 9,800 shops in its 36,000 square kilometers of territory, Taiwan has the highest concentration of convenience stores of any country in the world. The range of services these stores offer has drawn attention over whether the stores take advantage of their dominance, reports the China Times, our Chinese-language sister newspaper.

The Fair Trade Commission of the Executive Yuan, Taiwan's cabinet, published a survey showing that there is one convenience store per 260 square meters in the country. The numbers of customers who pass through the country's 7-11s and the stores of its competitors have reached 2.7 billion each year in a country of under 25 million. As of the end of 2010, most convenient stores were in New Taipei, Taipei and Taoyuan, with 20.2%, 15.3% and 11.7% of total stores, respectively. Density was highest in Taipei, followed by Hsinchu and Chiayi.

Convenience stores in Taiwan do far more than sell sundries. Shoppers can withdraw money, book train tickets, collect goods ordered online, eat and even send their clothes for a wash. Turnover from service-based sales jumped by 50% from 2009 to 2010.

According to another survey, people in Taiwan have become dependent on convenient stores over the past few years. More than 40% of people in the country visit a convenience store at least once per day, while more than 70% pay their bills there. More than 20% eat meals in the stores, and some parents even ask stores to babysit their children when they are not available. The most frequently used services are, according to the survey, payment of bills and traffic tickets.

** Words
1.    territory 領土;區域        2. concentration 集中       3. range 一系列    
4. dominance 優勢            5. commission 委員會       6. executive 執行者      
7. cabinet 內閣               8. competitor 競爭者         9. reach 達到  
10. billion 十億               11. million 百萬             12. respectively 分別地,各自地
13. density  密集度           14. sundries 雜貨           15. withdraw 取回
16. turnover 營業額           17. babysit 臨時看顧         18. available 有空的
19. frequently 頻繁地          20. payment 付款

** Grammar
1.    The range of services these stores offer has drawn attention over whether the stores take advantage of their dominance, reports the China Times, our Chinese-language sister newspaper.
a)    The range of services these stores offer 原句為The range of services that these stores offer關係代名詞that當受格時可以省略
b)    名詞子句: whether(是否) + 完整子句
c)    take advantage of~ : 利用~
2.    The numbers of customers who pass through the country's 7-11s and the stores of its competitors have reached 2.7 billion each year in a country of under 25 million.
a)    形容詞子句who pass through the country's 7-11s and the stores of its competitors,用來形容之前的名詞
b)    The number of + 複數名詞 + 單數動詞
The numbers of + 複數名詞 + 複數動詞
3.    According to another survey, people in Taiwan have become dependent on convenient stores over the past few years.
a)    介係詞片語可當形容詞用,放在名詞後面修飾名詞。例: 在台灣的人people in Taiwan
b)    過去(一段時間)以來: over the past + 一段時間,動詞時態要用在現在完成式
4.    The most frequently used services are, according to the survey, payment of bills and traffic tickets.
a)    ,according to the survey,是插入語,不影響主詞與動詞之間的關係。也可移至句首: , According to the survey, the most frequently used services are payment of bills and traffic tickets.

女人恐懼症 Fear of Beautiful Women


女人恐懼症
Fear of Beautiful Women

You may be walking, looking at the ground when you suddenly look up and see a beautiful woman. What do you do? Well, if you have Caligynephobia you panic. The fear of beautiful women is also known as Venustraphobia and impacts both men and women.

What Causes The Fear of Beautiful Women

In women the primary reason there may be a fear has to do with longstanding feelings of inferiority or low self esteem. They may have been unfavorably compared to pretty girls growing up and may now feel as if they can never compete or compare with someone they view as being pretty. In the minds of a female caligynephobe the fear today may be based on an impairment known as intimidation.

Interestingly the same may be true for men. They may not have been the athlete in school or the one the girls chased after. They may have seen the pretty girls as unapproachable and equated those early feelings with a sense that there would always be a ‘keep away’ sign attached to any female they thought of as beautiful.
Any subsequent failure in relationships (or attempted relationships) with beautiful women can often serve to reemphasize the belief that they must be feared.
Symptoms of Caligynephobia

Mild symptoms may include sweaty palms and a feeling of acute discomfort while in the presence of someone you believe to be beautiful. You will not be able to carry on a normal conversation with this person and will have a strong desire to flee.

In more acute cases the following symptoms may be present.

Rapid heartbeat■Panic attacks■FaintingNausea■Sense of dread

■The belief that if you open your mouth you will say something unbelievably stupid or not be able to say anything at all.

** Words
1.    Caligynephobia 美女恐懼症     2. panic 驚慌     3. be known as ~身分而聞名
4. impact 影響           5. primary 主要的          6. longstanding 存在已久的   
7. inferiority 自卑感      8. self esteem 自尊         9. unfavorably 不利地
10. compete競爭        11. impairment 損傷       12. intimidation 恐嚇
13. athlete 運動         14. unapproachable 不易親近的       15. equate 等同
16. attach 附加          17. subsequent 隨後的          18. reemphasize 再次強調
19. symptom 症狀       20. mild 輕微的       21. sweaty 出汗的      22. palm 手掌
23. acute 急性的        24. discomfort 不舒服         25. presence 面前
26. carry on 進行        27. desire 慾望        28. flee 逃跑          29. rapid 快速的
30. fainting 昏暈         31. nausea 噁心         32. dread 畏懼

** Grammar
1.    The fear of beautiful women is also known as Venustraphobia and impacts both men and women.
a)    be know for ~ : ~聞名  be know as ~ : ~身分所知  be known to + : ~人所知
b)    ~有影響: have an influence/impact on ~
2.    In women the primary reason there may be a fear has to do with longstanding feelings of inferiority or low self esteem.
a)    has to do with ~ ~有關係
3.    They may have been unfavorably compared to pretty girls growing up and may now feel as if they can never compete or compare with someone they view as being pretty.
a)    AB:  (1) regard A as B   (2) look upon/on A as B   (3) consider A as B
(4) take A as B     (5) think of A as B        (6) think A to be B
 b) ~比較: compare with/to ~ / in comparison with/to ~
 c) 現在完成被動語態: have/has been + pp
 d) as if 彷彿,好像
   句型: S + V as if + 假設語氣的子句/直說法的子句/ to + V
4.    They may have seen the pretty girls as unapproachable and equated those early feelings with a sense that there would always be a ‘keep away’ sign attached to any female they thought of as beautiful.
a)    AB:  see A as B  /  think of A as B
b)    過去分詞(pp)可當形容詞用,有被動已經的意思。
5.    Any subsequent failure in relationships (or attempted relationships) with beautiful women can often serve to reemphasize the belief that they must be feared.
a)    In relationship with ~ ~相關